June 2026
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The Power to Disarm
One of the most underrated skills in financial planning is the ability to disarm people.
Clients rarely attend meetings in a neutral state. They come carrying baggage. Some have been let down by previous advisers, some have been sold products they didn't understand, and others are simply nervous about discussing their finances with someone they have only just met. Their guard is almost always up.
The best advisers understand that before any meaningful planning can begin, the guard needs to come down. The word I use is disarm. Not manipulate, persuade, or convince. Disarm.
The advisers who master this skill tend to follow a simple sequence, which I’ll explain here.
Confidence
Clients borrow confidence from us. When someone is making decisions about their life savings, retirement plans, business sale or family wealth, uncertainty creates anxiety. They are looking for signals that they are in safe hands. Confidence is communicated through preparation, clarity and certainty. It’s communicated by speaking simply about complex topics, by having a process in place, and by explaining what happens next.
The adviser who appears uncertain creates uncertainty. The adviser who appears confident creates reassurance. Confidence is contagious.
Connection
Confidence alone is not enough. People do not care how much you know until they know how much you care. The strongest client relationships are built through genuine human connection. Connection comes from curiosity. Asking thoughtful questions. Listening more than speaking. Remembering details that matter. Understanding the person behind the portfolio.
Many advisers rush to demonstrate expertise. The best advisers spend more time understanding the human sitting opposite them. Clients want to feel heard, understood and valued. When that happens, something powerful occurs. Trust begins to form, and the conversation stops feeling like a financial transaction and starts feeling like a partnership.
Commitment
Once confidence and connection are established, commitment becomes the natural outcome. This is where many advisers make a mistake. They believe commitment comes from presenting a brilliant financial plan. It doesn't. Commitment comes from trust.
When clients trust you, they are more likely to implement recommendations, stay invested during difficult periods, and follow through on actions they have been delaying for years.
They are also more likely to become long-term advocates.
As advisers, we spend countless hours improving our technical knowledge, as we should. But some of the greatest value we create has nothing to do with tax wrappers, pension legislation or investment portfolios.
It comes from our ability to disarm people. When clients arrive anxious, distant and hesitant, it’s your job to help them become confident, connected, and committed.
Mastering this sequence will become even more valuable in the world that we are fast heading into.
📰 Articles & Blogs
10 Bits Per Second [8 minutes]. Why your client's confident "yes" isn't the real answer.
Why Clients Open Up When They Stop Feeling Examined [6 minutes]. When clients feel truly heard rather than examined, they open up.
Avoiding Burnout As A Financial Adviser [10 minutes]. Avoid burnout by cultivating gratitude, humility, intellectual curiosity, and continually reinventing your advisory practice.
How To Handle Clients Using AI To Challenge Your Advice [15 minutes]. See these events as opportunities to deepen collaboration, not as threats to your expertise.
Client Satisfaction Is High, but Referrals Are Low [8 minutes]. How to bridge the gap between high client satisfaction and low referral rates.
Behavioural Lessons From the World Cup [5 minutes]. How human psychology drives decision‑making in both sports and finance.
🎧 Podcasts
TRAP 98 - Taking Stock and Looking Forward [93 minutes]. The TRAP pack talk about the future of TRAP.
Balancing Between The Art Of Serving Clients Creatively And Optimising For Business Outcomes [32 minutes]. How advisers can stay creative without losing sight of the business side of things.
📚 Book Recommendations
A Behind-the-Scenes History of the Financial Planning Profession by Bob Veres. The story of the slow, painful, exhilarating evolution of the financial planning profession.
👏 Encore
12 Best Books For Financial Advisors To Read In 2026 [10 minutes]
You don’t need a better camera [1 minute]
How To Find Meaningful Work In The AI Era [5 minutes]
